Info Gathering Tactics

You know when there is something going on in your grade and people don’t let you know and you wanna find out real bad. And sometimes you might actually have to ask the people involved in it, in order to find out. Here are some ways to ask them politely or nicely.

Start off nice

When trying to find out something from someone, the most logic thing is to start off nice. Begin your conversation with a warm welcome and the introduction and then you get to the point after that. Take too long to get to your point and you might forget about it.

Be on their side

Usually when trying to find out something people would also tend to be slamming the table and making loud noises and screaming. But try the opposite of that. Pretend to be on their side and stuff and then sooner or later they are gonna be spitting it all out like vomit.

No big deal

This is a common trick that many people fall for. To find out the truth about someone or from someone, the person would act like they don’t care.Then soon the other person would spill it out due to frustration, bragging reasons or trying to impress you.

Get help

When trying to find something out, it is advisable to try to get help. It could be from one of your friends or one of their friends. 2 people makes the job easier right?

Threatening

If you wanna know that bad, then threatening is not such a bad idea then. Threaten them that if they don’t tell the real truth then you would blurt out rumors about this or threaten of exposure.

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Relationship after math

We all know what happens when a relationship ends. the misery part but this is about dealing with that part of a relationship. No body likes that part and it can be the reason people would stop dating. Here are how some people would grieve to this.

Shock or disbelief

On a normal basis people would be shock if they just got dumped. If they really liked the other person and they heard this news they would be in a state of shock or disbelief. They would be speechless and probably with their mouth open.

Be alone

When this happen people would usually wanna be alone so they can deal with it by themselves. This is good sometimes but other times being alone is actually not a good thing and can cause more problems or grief to them.

Jumps right into a new one

It’s common for people to instantly jump into another relationship after they just ended one. That person would do this so they could fill in the gap with a new person but this isn’t a good idea because that person will definitely be your rebound and they wouldn’t like that and also you need to let your body heal from the old wound.

Acts strange

It’s not uncommon for people to talk differently or act differently after a break up. They would either do this to pretend that they aren’t hurt or they are too hurt to act normal. By acting differently I mean speaking unclear and saying things that don’t make sense or is logical and acting differently is like being weird around other people.

Hold the pain in or just let it out

When a person goes through a break up, they could either hold the pain in them and release it out at the worst moment possible or just have a break down and just let it all out the moment this happens. Both ways aren’t bad and they are kind of good somehow but in my opinion the second one is better since if you break down at a bad moment then it could cause other issues.

The Rebound (relationship)

It sucks being a rebound especially when it last like less than a week. How to know if you are a rebound or not? Well I will explain about that right here.

Test subject “A” is the one that just broke up

Test subject “B” is the rebound or other partner

What is a rebound?

A rebound in relationship language is when one person that just recently been out of a relationship go date another person and once the one that just broke up feels better or forgets about the break up they would dump the other person and get back in the game.

Example:  A just been out of a relationship lately and she wants to get back into dating other people quickly and have an idea of how to. B is a desperate guy that is looking for a relationship and doesn’t care about how long it will last. A knows this and she takes advantage of it then dates B. After less than a week A is feeling all better and forgot about the break up, now because of B, being the rebound. So A dumps B and goes back to dating people of her type. B is left there regretting ever dating A.

Is it good to be a rebound or not?

Being a rebound is possibly the worst thing in relationships. I know how it feels because I’ve been there and it wasn’t pretty. If you know you are the rebound you must try to ruin that person by making them feel worse about the break up and keep talking about it.

Are rebound relationships bad or good?

Rebound relationships can be good for some people but most the time they hate it. You probably won’t hate it at first because you don’t know you are in one and also you are having a great time too. But once the other person is done you would start to feel stupid for it.

How long can they last?

Rebound relationships don’t have a time of when it will end. It all depends on how hurt the other person is. If they are really hurt then it would definitely last a long time but if the pain is at a low rate then it probably won’t last long at all.

Common Relationship issues

In relationships there are always issues involved whether it is a minor issue or a big major issue. But you might have these issue and think of it as a big issue but it might just be a minor issue. Here are some common issues in a relationship.

Cheating

This is a common issue and is the number 1 issue that can ruin any relationship unless the other partner is a very understanding person and would forgive them. There are arguments to this point that it isn’t a very common issue but there are others where his/her relationship are always filled with this issue.

Age difference

This is common in many places of the world but unlike the other one this one has a very low chance to actually ruin a relationship because true love to those people doesn’t include age in the formula. The only way this could be an issue is with parents disagreeing.

Not ready

This would be an issue if one of the partner isn’t ready for a commitment and then have all this pressure on them then they would just snap. This would have a chance to maybe break a relationship if the other partner can’t wait for his/her partner to be ready.

Complains

This issue is in almost every relationship since a good or bad relationship can’t be one without having one of the partners complain to the other partner and that partner pretending to listen even though they probably aren’t. This isn’t any big issue and can be easily solved.

Long distant

This isn’t very common just because when in a relationship you barely even have to consider long distant. But when it does happen maintaining a good relationship can actually be difficult.

Finding Friends

By finding friends I don’t mean looking for a friend but instead I am trying to say finding the right kind of friends. You can come across the wrong kind of people that would make you walk on the ‘dark path.’ This can cause many issues to your and your family.

Show care and support

When looking for a good friend you must see if they have this trait. If you are in trouble or is recovering do they show care and support or not and if they don’t it could either mean they don’t care and they are a bad friend or it means they are just pretending and inside they actually care.

Bringing out the best of you

To know if that person would make a good friend or not you must watch if taht person bring out the best of you or not. Do they encourage you to do good things or are all of them bad things.

Encouragement and motivation

If that person keep you motivated and also encourages you then they are a keeper. They would help you overcome fears, encourage you through hard times and motivate you to keep trying and to not give up.

Similar interests

When it’s good to have friends that have a different kind of interest to you, it’s also good to have friends that share a similar interest to you. When having similar or the same interests it is easier to work on things and decide on things too. But with different interest it might take longer to decide.

Overprotective

Is that person overprotective or just protective? If so that means that they care about you and who you hang out with. As a good friend you must watch out who your friends hang out with other than you. If your friend got into trouble due to cooperating with other people then that means you have failed to be a friend.

 

 

Breakup’s True Light

Break ups, there are one of the worst things anyone could go through. They are difficult to deal with and are also to make it into words for the other partner to understand. But not all the time you know why this is happening, even though the most famous phrase in a break up is ‘it’s not you, it’s me.” So I’m here to actually give reasonable reasons.

Parents

I seen many relationships that get ruined because of the disapproval of parents. These are probably because your parents didn’t like the choice you have made or they are in a bad mood causing you to be a victim. So don’t be surprise when you hear that your break-up was cause by the parents.

Lack of inclusiveness and lack of trust

When you are in a relationship where one of the partner is making another partner not feel inclusive then don’t have hopes of the relationship lasting too long just because the otehr partner will eventually get sick of it then give it up. Also not trusting each other can be a problem because they will feel like you don’t trust them with something and the result would be them leaving you.

Loss of passion

At the beginning of every relationship it’s always the usual challenging each other, talk to each other a lot and just have passion in your love. But as the the relationship goes on if one of the partner loses passion in the relationship then you guys would go from being fun to being boring folks watching tv. Passion is what keeps a relationship last long.

Bad partner

When I say bad partner, I mean the kind of partner that is abusive and is a cheater. One of the cause of the break up might be that one of the partner is having another partner or that partner likes to abuse their power then sooner or later the other partner find out that you are cheating so then they would end it right away or try to mess with you.

Too much changed

When in a relationship that both partners are from different worlds. And I don’t mean one coming from mars and one coming from earth, No. What I mean is that if one is from the a rich spot and the other from a average spot. Then one of them would get sucked into another person’s world and would completely change them. When realizing that they have been sucked into another person’s life they would end it so they can return to their normal life again and probably find someone around their world.

I love You Quotes

Saying “I love you” to someone can be difficult. It could either ruin your progress of making a relationship or could make it better than ever. So here are some quotes that might be in handy to help you with that.

  1. “I love you and I don’t want to lose you. Because my life has been better since the day I found out.”

    Anonymous

  2. “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.  I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way.”

    Pablo Neruda

  3. “I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.”

    Roy Croft

  4. “I love you like a fat kid loves cake.”

    —Scott Adams

  5. “I love you, and I will love you until I die, and if there’s a life after that, I’ll love you then.”

    ―Cassandra Clare, City of Glass

  6. “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.'”

    —Erich Fromm

  7. “I’ve never fallen in love right off the bat. I get scared to say I love you too soon because it means so much. It means you’re not seeing an end to things.”

    —Leighton Meester

  8. “A hundred hearts would be too few

    To carry all my love for you.”

    —Unknown

  9. “The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain singing to it. You and you alone make me feel that I am alive. Other men it is said have seen angels, but I have seen thee and thou art enough.”

    —George Moore

  10.  “You are my today and all of my tomorrows. 

    Leo Christopher

  11. “You have me. Until every last star in the galaxy dies. You have me.”

    —Amie Kaufman

  12. “Don’t be afraid to lose him, because if a man truly loves you, he’s not going anywhere.”

    Steve Harvey

  13. “We loved with a love that was more than love.”

    Edgar Allan Poe

  14. I love you the more in that I believe you had liked me for my own sake and for nothing else.                                                                                                                                                          -John Keats

  15. “I would find you in any lifetime.”

    Kanye West

  16. “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.”

    Emily Brontë

  17. “I have nothing special to offer except my capacity to love you.”

    A. R. Asher

  18. “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I could walk in my garden forever.”

    Alfred, Lord Tennyson

  19. “When all my dreams come true, the one I want next to me – it’s you.”

    One Tree Hill

  20. “There is no remedy for love, but to love more.”

    Henry David Thoreau